Are you prepared to deal with upset customers?
To discover how to turn unhappy customers into happy fans, I interview Jay Baer.
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The Social Media Marketing podcast is an on-demand talk radio show from Social Media Examiner. It’s designed to help busy marketers and business owners discover what works with social media marketing.
In this episode I interview Jay Baer, the author of Youtility, co-host of the Social Pros Podcast and founder of Convince & Convert, an agency and blog focused on digital marketing. His newest book is Hug Your Haters: How to Embrace Complaints and Keep Your Customers.
Jay will explore how to convert social media haters into raving fans.
You’ll discover why it’s important to hug your haters.
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Dealing With Unhappy Customers
The backstory of Hug Your Haters
The idea of customer service and customer experience has been at the front of Jay’s mind for a long time, he explains. His company Convince & Convert helps major brands with their social media and content marketing, and they increasingly get involved in issues with customers.
It’s not just about being proactive and doing marketing, Jay says. You have to be just as good, if not better, at reactive customer service. Jay found even organizations with a lot of resources were befuddled by everything related to digital customer service and experience in the modern world.
Last year at Social Media Marketing World, Jay did his “Hug Your Haters” presentation for the first time. Although he has taken the Youtility concept all over the world, Jay says the Hug Your Haters book is the best thing he’s ever done and the speech is the best speech he has ever given.
Listen to the show to learn what Tom Webster said he liked about Hug Your Haters in the forward to the book.
What are haters and why do people hate
Jay refers to anybody who complains about a business either off stage or on stage as a hater. An off-stage hater is somebody who complains in private: on telephone and email. An on-stage hater is somebody who complains in public: social media, review sites, discussion boards and forums.
He shares that historically and even currently, the majority of people complain off stage but that the pendulum is swinging the other way because it’s much easier to reach out to a brand on Facebook, Twitter or beyond than it is to send an email or wait on hold.
When people complain off stage, they almost always want an answer. They have a problem they want to be fixed, and 90% of the time they expect companies to respond. When people complain on stage, they don’t necessarily want an answer; they want an audience. They want people to empathize and engage with them around their experience. If they actually hear back from the company, it’s a bonus.
Even though only 47% of the people who complain in public actually expect companies to get back to them, Jay says their research proved that if you actually answer the person who had a bad experience and left a review online, it has a meaningful and significant impact on your customer advocacy.
Listen to the show to discover how content shock also applies to disgruntled customers.
Why engage haters
Jay says haters are not the problem, ignoring them is. He believes there are multiple benefits to answering every complaint in every channel every time, instead of what most businesses do today, which is answer some people some of the time in the channels they prefer.
First, if you answer somebody, you at least have a chance to turn them around. When Jay speaks about not responding, he refers to Dave Kerpen who likes to say, a lack of response is a response. No response says, “I don’t care about you very much.”
Second, every time you answer a customer complaint, it increases customer advocacy. It takes a bad situation and it makes it better.
Third, when you actually interact with negative customers, you learn things about how your business is perceived that you can then use to make your business better.
Jay shares why Erin Pepper, the Director of Guest Relations for Le Pain Quotidien wanted to triple the number of complaints they received, and reveals why the 5% of people who complain are the most important customers you have.
Listen to the show to hear the reason people take complaints personally and why they shouldn’t.
How to engage haters
The first step on the road to hugging your haters is to find them. In social media people don’t necessarily complain directly. If someone calls or emails you, you know about it. However, if they mention you on Twitter, Facebook, TripAdvisor, G2 Crowd or TrustRadius, it’s up to you to dig deeper to find all this commentary about your organization. That’s where social media listening software comes into play.
Jay makes some recommendations for social listening software and says small businesses should definitely set up Google Alerts. He also points to Mention, Hootsuite and Buffer, which just rolled out a listening component. (Disclosure: Jay is an investor in Buffer.)
After you find your haters, step two is to answer them.
Hugging your haters means you answer every complaint in every channel every time, Jay explains. That does not mean that the customer is always right, Jay explains. It means the customer is always heard.
It’s not free or inexpensive to answer everybody. You just have to decide it’s worth it. To help you save time while engaging, Jay shares this rule: reply only twice. He says you should never ever answer a customer more than twice in any public setting and explains why.
Listen to the show to hear why the spectators are more important than the haters.
How to respond
Jay says that when you respond to a hater, especially online, you need to have empathy because you have upset or disappointed this person at some level.
He shares that many businesses and individuals who take the time to respond, do so in a way that is so devoid of caring, feeling or empathy, they actually make the situation worse.
Jay suggests that instead of trying to represent “The Organization,” you should deal with people on a one-to-one, human level. He says a lot of showing empathy has to do with tone.
Jay shares an example from Shutterstock, which he uses in the book. When they had a big outage in early 2015, a guy tweeted, “The website’s down. It’s not me, it’s you.” Shutterstock answered, “It’s not you, it’s definitely us. We’re really sorry.” And the representative signed her name. She was getting three tweets per second, and answered everyone personally with humanity in such a way that it was obvious she’d read their complaint.
Just because we need to be faster in social media doesn’t mean we should copy and paste the pre-approved legal response, because that is not empathy, Jay adds.
Another thing to keep in mind is that if you have to switch channels (to discuss account details, for example), switch within the channel of the customer’s choice. If they reached out online, don’t ask them to call or email you. Initiate private interactions with a message on their preferred platform, whether it’s Facebook, Twitter, Yelp or TripAdvisor; each one has a messaging option.
Jay shares a few examples of people doing social customer service well. He includes recent podcast guest Dan Gingiss, who pioneered the customer service program for Discover Card, and KLM, the national airline of the Netherlands. They answer about 60,000 tweets a week, 24 hours a day, in 14 different languages. If you tweet them at 3am in Turkish, KLM will tweet back at 3:10am in Turkish.
Listen to the show to discover why Jay believes many companies have the wrong people on the front lines of customer service.
Dealing with the crazies
Handle trolls or crazies the exact same way as you handle any other hater, Jay suggests. That way, you are not on record as picking and choosing who gets a response.
The only time you shouldn’t answer someone is if they’ve done something outlandish that is a personal attack or a threat, Jay says. In those cases document everything and call law enforcement.
Jay says that if you ignore a problem, it could spiral out of control and shares how a florist customer in Melbourne, Australia had an issue with two deliveries and emailed the business to share her experience. The customer service rep responded with one sentence, “Do not ever contact us again.”
The customer took a screenshot of the email response and put it on Instagram and Facebook, where it went viral. Instead of apologizing, the guy at the florist said, “I know where you live, and I am going to come over to your house and settle it personally.” At that point the owner became aware of the situation and got involved. The owner said the guy was fired, they were sorry and new roses were on the way; she did full damage control.
Even better is the policy of Umpqua Bank in Oregon. At the bank, it doesn’t matter who you talk to or what the situation is, the first person you talk to will own your problem all the way through resolution. It’s called the “We Own It” policy, and it’s a great model for others to follow.
Jay explains that although we who work in social media know it makes more sense to keep current customers, readers, podcast listeners and email subscribers than it does to constantly get new people, we don’t actually operate that way.
Each year $500 billion are spent on marketing, and $9 billion are spent on customer service, he shares, which makes no sense. He believes we have to understand the value of somebody who is already in our tribe and be a lot less quick to turn our back on customers we think don’t like us.
Listen to the show to discover how to get an electronic version of Hug Your Haters before it’s released in March, as well as incentives for buying copies in advance.
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Key takeaways mentioned in this episode:
- Learn more about Jay on his website.
- Get your copy of Hug Your Haters now.
- Order Hug Your Haters: How to Embrace Complaints and Keep Your Customers from Amazon.
- Read Youtility.
- Listen to the Social Pros Podcast.
- Learn more about Tom Webster and Edison Research.
- Read a recap of Jay’s “Hug Your Haters” presentation from Social Media Marketing World 2015.
- Check out Dave Kerpen’s thoughts on dealing with customer complaints.
- Explore Le Pain Quotidien.
- Learn about TripAdvisor, G2 Crowd and TrustRadius.
- Try out social listening tools, such as Google Alerts, Mention, Hootsuite and Buffer.
- Explore Shutterstock, Discover Card, KLM and Umpqua Bank.
- Check out Zoom.
- Read Platform: Get Noticed in a Noisy World by Michael Hyatt and explore Platform University.
- Follow me, subscribe and listen to the Social Media Examiner weekly blabs.
- Learn more about the 2016 Social Media Marketing World.
- Read the 2015 Social Media Marketing Industry Report.
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