said 1 year ago:
@rich-brooks Love this topic.
I feel like everyone who participates on social media needs to have a thick skin about negative comments. And yet, the only way I know to get a thick skin is to get a negative comment, stress out about it, figure out what to do, and then move on. That’s what builds a thick skin.
I do everything I can to promote what I call a safe conversation zone on my entire online presence. I have a blog policy that I post on my site. I use nearly the same guidelines for every social media tool I use. I find that having the policy really helps ME the most. It helps me to anticipate what is unacceptable from what is just uncomfortable. Over the years I’ve been blogging, I’ve learned to really welcome and embrace divergent opinions. So someone who disagrees with me only makes my postings better. I truly believe that, so their comments have no sting and I don’t feel any need to balance out their opinion. I don’t have to be right.
I draw the line at ugliness. Name calling. Insults. I don’t allow these in my blog comments, and I don’t respond to them on social media.
I’ve also learned (the hard way) that if I find myself in a place where I feel I have to defend myself or my position or my work, I’m in the wrong place. Defending myself never makes a situation better. Sometimes, its just better to walk away from those fights.